Fabric and the way it’s stitched together tells a story and in the end, you embody the person you project. The point is– clothes make part of who we are, want to become or seem to be. Human instinct allows for instant judgment and inferences based on material pieces and the way they and you are put together, effortlessly or not.
If we own our clothes, why don’t we more often own our looks?
Clothes are a form of expression and we could gain something by being less risk-averse. Finding your personal style is a matter of taking some risks and seeing what sticks outside your comfort zone.
At times, you want to blend in with your peers. My friend recently spent a good fifteen minutes deciding between Cameo the Label dress and DL 1961 jeans cause I was excited/anxious about going out. For me, I thought, it was about making my own mark in the environment of possibilities with a Wildfox hoodie.
A few days later, I attended a mixer at an art gallery. I didn’t know anyone, and I wore a Russian bomber hat. I decided to be inspired by the setting. No one else had anything on their heads. I stuck out like a thimble on a thumb. Men wanted to feel the fuzziness. One girl who said she could never pull it off. Not true. I am simply emboldened by my fashion choices.
That’s where “outfit of the day” comes in. There are more than 26 million posts tagged #hot on Instagram. Whoever started it, was onto something.
Knowing how to work it on your own terms will help you work a room, if you want. Clothes can give you confidence to start conversations or cloak you with insecurities to transform you a backdrop. I mean, think about it– you ‘d be naked otherwise so why don’t we bare different sides of ourselves when we get a chance? Dress without fear and you’ll leave the door, without self-judgment.
Here are some additional tips:.
- Be comfortably confident and vice versa.
- Experiment– just once, just a little and see what happens. Remember, you can always take the edge off. Maybe start with accessories.
- When shopping, there’s no shame in going straight to the sales rack or ask for a discount, like no sales tax.
- Try to stay away from trends and invest in good clothes. Fashion is cyclical but if something speaks to you or is evocative of a positive feeling, get it. Osh kosh b’gosh, I wish I had kept my overalls from middle school.
I love looking at characters and their wardrobes on television because they’re supposed to reflect the real world, stereotypically. Dressing up or down is like putting or acting on a show in real life. Fabric and the way it’s stitched together tells a story and in the end, you embody the person you project. The point is– clothes make part of who we are, want to become or seem to be. Human instinct allows for instant judgment and inferences based on material pieces and the way they and you are put together, effortlessly or not.